Most people who are going through a divorce want to just get it over with as painlessly as possible. Very few people want the fighting and hostility that come from a bitter divorce. Unfortunately though, divorces are one of the most stressful, hostile situations you will probably ever encounter with a few exceptions. Here are the top five secrets to keeping your divorce peaceful under any circumstance.
Below we will go over our top five tips for keeping your divorce peaceful, but we want to point out that these tips are oriented toward a divorce that is contested and may have some contentious feelings already. We do also have hints for helping to keep an uncontested (also called peaceful, collaborative divorce, or amicable divorce) from becoming conflicted. We offer specialized options for any uncontested or amicable divorces and think there are some really important things to think about when choosing an attorney for a divorce that starts off uncontested. Here are a few of the articles we have to help you navigate those situations:
If you have are about to get divorced or are in the process of a divorce and there is a lot that has not been decided, you are fighting over property settlements, custody, or support the following tips should help you to maintain a more peaceful divorce.
Our Oregon Family Lawyer’s Top 5 Secrets For Keeping Your Divorce Peaceful
1. Hire a good Portland or SW Washington family law attorney.
2. Don’t try to win any more arguments.
3. Don’t give your spouse reasons to be angry.
4. Let your Portland family law attorney handle stressful situations.
5. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
This is easier said than done sometimes, but often times people end up fighting over things out of principle rather than out of logic. It can be hard to see the bigger picture when emotions are running high which is another good reason to make sure you trust your divorce attorney so you will listen when they tell you something really is small.
I had a case once where the parties each spent over $1,000 arguing about who should get the babies’ dehumidifier. They both felt they were the primary parent, and needed the dehumidifier in their house. Neither of them listened when their attorneys told them it was cheaper just to let the other person have the darn thing and buy a new one than it was to keep fighting over it. Don’t fall into this trap, sometimes it’s better to let your spouse “win” than it is to fight over certain things.
We also suggest reading our article about the Top 5 Secrets to a Successful Divorce Trial which is helpful from the start of a divorce case.
Whether you are looking for a divorce attorney in Portland or SW Washington these tips will help you to create a more peaceful divorce process, reducing stress, saving money, and helping your to negotiate a settlement faster. If you still have questions our Portland family law attorney can help you, in the Portland area including Clackamas, Clark county, and surrounding areas call us at 1 (503) 855-4777 or toll free at 1 (855) 328-9108.